By Adam Aziz
By Adam Aziz
Morocco World News
December 7, 2011
What I call nursery love is a love able to accommodate others unconditionally. It accepts without reluctance all vulnerabilities, inadequacies, and shortcomings. It is a man or woman who gives love to another who does not love them, which leaves only pure transporting love, a love offered to a lost heart.
These loves are incredibly generous, persistent in loving people in difficulty, a danger to themselves, or who have yet to achieve inner strength. It is loving someone not yet strong enough to be a partner capable of reciprocity, vibrancy, and balance in a relationship.
Nurturing nursery love allows for growth in beauty and strength. The loved becomes self assured and develops their skills, until a day when having acquired enough self-confidence they will be able to…leave the person who loved them. Nursery loves are always very painful—for the one who gives! But we can believe, given the number of these kinds of relationships, that each finds their satisfaction, including the one who gives their energy, the wealth of their sentiments, the stimulation of their passions, the generosity of their body, their own dreams and projects.
These nursery loves last a few years, the time for the other to grow, to assert themselves, to discover their potential and aspirations, and ultimately take the risk to fly, to be autonomous, and find their own life—even to take in their turn… someone more vulnerable to love.
Thus in these mismatched loves, the balance of the couple is based on the inequality of resources and expectations. It is as if one of the two is always dependent on the other. When the dependency is broken, the relationship suffers and threatens to fail. But in the beginning, there is the pleasure of sacrificial love, loving someone despite all their shortcomings. This love is a call, an ideal, an invitation to give the best of themselves.
Translated by Admou Allal and edited by Jasmine Davey
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