By Kaouthar Elouahabi
By Kaouthar Elouahabi
Idaho – We all have read the famous childhood story of ‘Alice in Wonderland’. Alice asked the cheshire cat, an acquaintance of hers: “Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?” “That depends, a good deal, on where you want to get to”, said the cat. “I don’t much care where!” said Alice. “Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,” said the cat.
This short conversation between Alice and her cat has a very important significance when it is applied into the context of our lives. Meaning that the man or woman with no aims or goals is very much like a boat adrift with no sail, destined to finally collide head-on with rocks. Goals are just like the fuel to the achievement car in our life. For instance, Milad Fayez Moussa, an NLP coach in the Netherlands Institute for Human Development Sciences (NTINLP), found based on research done by human development scholars that only 3 percent of men and women have clear goals, and less than 1 percent of these people review and revise their goals constantly, and move forward towards achieving them. In his book, Your Dream Live, Milad says: “The main difference distinguishing achievers from non-achievers is that achievers set goals and proceed with their goals into actions, while non achievers are content only to practice the very act of dreaming, and setting goals.”
Yet, most people are not aware of the importance of setting goals as they do not know how to do this. These people are constantly working for those who have ambition, goals, and a will to achieve. That is, every one of us is working either to achieve one’s own goals, or help others achieve their own. Instead, the best thing to do here is to work on achieving your own goals with the help of others who are working on theirs too. Therefore, setting goals is not such a difficult task to do as most people believe. The challenge here is to know how to set goals. Again, and as I have read in some resources mainly: Anthony Robbins’ book Awaken the giant within, and Milad Moussa’s Your Dream Live,” I could come up with some steps to follow while setting goals.
First of all, when setting goals, you have to take into consideration every side in your life; the spiritual, physical, social, familial, professional and personal side. In his discipline known as (Neurological Adjustment Dynamics), Dr Ibrahim Al-Feqy – a pioneer in the field of Human Development Sciences – reaffirms that our goals should match with all the aspects of a balanced life, which must be inclusive of all of life’s front, which were mentioned above. In fact, to render easier review of each side in your life and its relation with your goals, you must give an independent consideration of every side. Also, you have to make sure that your goals do go hand in hand with your principles and beliefs, and that there is one common point between all your goals. This point should signify and/or serve the one meaning and purpose of your life. In other words, each one of us wants to attain happiness. This notion of happiness may also differ from one to another. Yet, most people keep looking for the path to happiness or self-satisfaction, and they really forget that happiness is the path itself.
Secondly, having self-confidence, determination and motivation before setting your goals can help a great deal in achieving them. The more you believe in and desire your goal, the better the result is going to be. This is what human development scholars call “the intensity of the goal desire.” Meaning that if you have a strong desire to achieve a certain goal, absolutely, no one can stop you from doing that. As put by Napoleon Hill in his book, “think and grow rich”
“If a human mind gets captivated by a fresh insight, it can hardly return to the original theme.” Therefore, fill your mind with goals. When you equip your subconscious with goals, your subconscious will in turn equip your conscious mind with insights and methods that help with reaching them in reality. A good example of this is Thomas Edison who failed more than 9999 times, yet went ahead towards what he deeply believed he could achieve.
Thirdly, while you are setting your goals, try to move your thinking to the moment of achievement. At this time, you will feel the sweetness of achieving your goals. Trying to taste the great feeling of success and accomplishment will definitely reflect on your present reality. This will boost your energy into more hard work for the accomplishment of your goals, and will affect your attitude into positive and optimistic actions for the future
Last but not least, when you are up to the task of recognizing your goals, submit them to time plans, from months to years. Get into the habit of consistently living with a plan, a set time frame, as commitment to a precise deadline equips you with motivation and enthusiasm to achieve your goals. Also, you can still divide your goals into short and long term ones.
All in all, we can say that to live your life without having clear goals, objectives and dreams is worth nothing. It is quite important that we know where we stand right now, and where we wish to be in the future. And let’s stop being negative by thinking of all the possible obstacles and problems that may face us. Rather, we have to believe in the following saying: “Where there is a will, there is a way”.
Edited by Benjamin Vilanti
Kaouthar Elouahabi holds a Bachelor’s Degree in English Literature and Linguistics from The Faculty of Letters in Tetouan, Morocco. High school English teacher in Morocco, she is currently a Fulbright Visiting Scholar at the University of Idaho, USA teaching Arabic Language, and culture. She is practitioner in NLP Neurological Linguistic Programming from the Netherlands Institute for Human Development Sciences, and an active member of many Moroccan and Non Moroccan Associations. She is a founding member of Ibn Rochd association for culture and development.
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