By Mohamed Amine Qasserras
By Mohamed Amine Qasserras
Morocco World News
Kenitra, March 12, 2012
Self-confidence is defined as the ability to trust oneself and believe in one’s potential to achieve success. A person’s ability to accomplish his or her goals and fulfill their dreams depends on how self-confident they are. Hence, self-confidence is extremely vital in order to succeed in life.
What are the characteristics of a self-confident person?
As a general rule, people with self confidence are usually neat, have good physical posture, walking upright and with quick strides. During conversations, they make effective eye contact and speak forcefully without any hesitation to defend their point of view. People with self-confidence never doubt themselves and rarely worry about criticism from others. Never timid, they covet positions of leadership and enjoy being at the head of the table. When making an error, they confidently take responsibility without sounding too apologetic or defensive. More importantly, they learn from their mistakes and move on without dwelling on the past. Finally, when they receive praise, they do not become complacent. They appreciate the recognition and use it as motivation to work harder to establish more success.
What are the traits of those who lack self-confidence?
People who lack confidence in themselves have been known to pay very little attention to their outward appearance. They are usually timid, speak very softly and question their every move. They are risk averse as they fear being criticized or mocked by others. They tend to keep silent and if asked for their opinion, they are usually abrupt with their responses. People who lack self-confidence do not take very well to constructive criticism as they internalize feedback.
How to build self-confidence?
Self-confidence is not something that we are born with. As with most social skills, it is something that could easily be built with hard work and commitment. First, a person who suffers from lack of confidence must pay attention to his or her outward demeanor. Conventional wisdom tells us to “never judge a book by its cover”. Nevertheless, studies have proven that self-confidence starts with how good an individual feels about themselves. While we accept the statement “clothes do not make a Man,” being clean and neat can empower an individual, make them think positively about themselves and make others take them a bit more seriously.
Clear and commanding communication is the second key factor in building self-confidence. Many of the world’s greatest leaders were also great orators. When we speak passionately and strongly in arguing our perspectives, we send a clear message that we are to be taken seriously. Once you have mastered your oral advocacy skills, you need to give yourself a sense of worth. Do not make yourself dispensable and always remind others of how important you are. You must also correct your physical posture and body language by always standing up straight, looking energetic, and maintaining steady eye contact.
As many experts have suggested, self confidence is a balancing act between the physical and mental realms. As such, a healthy state of mind is essential, particularly a feeling of importance (not arrogance). Always focus on your accomplishments and do not dwell on past failures. Finally, you must be a leader and avoid sitting in the back row! No matter where you are, school, work, extra-curricular activities, make it a habit of always being in the front. Those who could be your potential employers or partners will never notice you if you are in the back.
As you embark on your personal journey to success, tell yourself, time and again, that those with self confidence were not born with it. They acquired it through hard work and practice. If you are one of those who lacks self-confidence, I hope that reading this article will be your first step in feeling great about yourself and your capabilities.
Editing by Hisham El Koustaf
Mohammed Amine Qasserras is s a teacher of English in Rabat. He received his B.A in English Studies and Culture. He has published a number of articles and short stories in different publications. In 2009 he was selected as the best Moroccan writer ( short story category) by British Council in England with an incorporation with the university of London in Paris which allowed him to participated in Médi-Café Trans- Maghreb Creative Writing Project which brought writers from Morocco, Algeria, Tunisia and Britain in a unique form that enriched all partners. In 2010 Mohammed was a visiting Fulbright Scholar at City University of New York teaching Arabic Studies and Culture.
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