By Abderrahmane Boulmani
By Abderrahmane Boulmani
Morocco World News
Tantan, Morocco, March16, 2012
Love is a thorny subject that becomes the present-day issue of youngsters in every place. Even though the use of social media to discuss politics has propagated, I still notice that the lion’s share of discussion among young people, at least my contacts on Facebook, revert around love. Going through the posts of my contacts, I found different standpoints. While some think that love does not exist, those who believe in it vary in their views; between those who are altruistic and those who think of love in more egotistical terms.
A friend of mine once posted on his Facebook wall: “I have never seen a female teacher fall in love with a farmer. I have never seen a black man getting married to a white woman.” I think by this statement, he intends to say that love, as pictured in romantic novels, does not exist in the veracity. We do not love the other sex for the sake of love, but rather “for something in only Jacob’s mind” as we say in Arabic; a person loves another for his or her beauty, money, intelligence, or whatever.
Nevertheless, many other people and events support the point that love still exists in its platonic shape. Accordingly, we love only for the sake of love, no more no less. Or else, what is the aim of Jude Fawley, in Hardy’s “Jude the Obscure”, behind his blind affection for Sue Bridenhead. Furthermore, Shakespeare depicts his mistress in his sonnet 138 as a normal girl. His diction does not expose her to possess any extraordinary beauty: “My mistress’ eyes are nothing like the sun”. Therefore, I am inclined to say that both Hardy and Shakespeare convey the same idea that love is altruistic. Still, those who stand that love is egoistic claim once more that affection as self-denial, that existed only in the past, if not only in books and their writers’ imagination.
Nonetheless, I remark that even in the present time there are people who love their lovers, or mistresses for their own sake. Lately, I listened to a young person who reveals in a radio program that he crazily loves a girl with whom he had a sexual intercourse before. He vowed to go with her down the aisles, but she unfortunately passed away. Her death caused him to embrace Islam, but the religion does not impede him to continue loving her even after her death. Despite he is conscious that their relation is illegal in accordance to the teachings with Islam. Moreover he emphasized that, though marriage is recommended in the religion, he would not marry someone else after loving her.
To put short, people have different views on the issue. Some of them speak from experience while others just theorize. Thus, I find that love is contradictory; it is egoistic and altruistic both at the same time, as depicted by Blake in his “Clod and the Pebble”.
Edited by Benjamin Villanti
Abderrahmane boulmani is a teacher of English in Tantan, Sothern Morocco. He has a B.A in English studies from faculty of letter and human sciences at the University of Ibn Zoher, Agadir. He was the vice president of tmamaynut, an association that advocates the amazigh cause, branch of Tantan. He is interested in cultural and social studies. He writes and advocates for the Amazigh cause. He can be reached at: [email protected]
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