Morocco World News
Fez, May 17, 2012
The most disgusting crime one can think of is a father raping his own daughter. It’s sickening, heartbreaking and horrific to think that the one, who is supposed to be the most concerned about a girl’s safety, would be the same person raping her. The one, who is supposed to protect her from any evil, is the evil himself. The one who is supposed to be a shelter for fatherly love and compassion is the source of destruction and damage at all levels.
These girls aren’t like any other victims of rape. They have a doubled trauma that will forever mark their lives. They were brutally raped; some of them for years, and the rapist was no one but their flesh and blood, their father.
Incest is a horrific issue that needs serious action to be revealed and spoken about instead of treating it as a taboo. Little girls’ lives depend on the action civil society takes to deal with the issue in order to prevent any potential danger that might be threatening girls. We’ve read and heard about several cases of incest over the last few years but little action is being done.
Sexually abusive fathers do exist in our society and people who know about them should stop treating the issue as a taboo, starting from the mothers who think they are just protecting the family, while they are intentionally destroying their children.
Last week, I read a horrible story about a sexually abusive father who raped his six-year old daughter causing her severe damage. This incident happened in the city of Safi, 200 Km south of Casablanca. It is believed that the father tried to seduce his ten-year old daughter. When he failed, he turned to six- year old daughter who seemed to be an easier prey.
The monstrous father, who was already charged and jailed for 10 years for raping his sister-in-law, was again arrested for raping his daughter and attempting to rape after his wife set him up with the police.
The mother, who is the breadwinner of the family, had to leave to work from Saturday till Tuesday. She left her two daughters with their father assuming that no one who would take better care of them than him. When she came back home, she found her daughter laying on bed bleeding and complaining about and suffering from acute injuries and pain in her sexual parts. When the mother asked her daughter about the person who sexually abused her, the girl innocently replied that it was her father.
The mother tried to dissuade the father and took her daughter to Mohammed V hospital in Safi where the doctor categorized her condition as serious and called for an urgent police investigation. The little girl underwent a surgery by two doctors for about 2 hours due to the serious injury she suffered from when she was raped.
While the daughter was at the hospital, the “father” who was worried that the mother would tell the police, was only few miles away from the hospital observing what would happen next. He called the mother to beg her not to take the issue to court, and to try to solve the problem peacefully and without much buzz. The mother, who already had a deal with the police, pretended to agree. A few minutes later, he was arrested.
Another similar case of incest happened earlier this year in Kenitra. In February, 2012, a court in Kenitra sentenced a father for 30 years in jail for brutally raping his two young daughters who were 13 and 7 years old respectively The father used to take advantage of the absence of the mother, who is also the breadwinner of the family, to lure his daughters to his room and sexually abuse them, while threatening them that he would kill them if they told their mother. The 13 year old girl’s psychological state was being destroyed day after day which made the mother urge her daughter to reveal the truth about her rapist. It was then when she told her about all the harm her father had done to her and her younger sister.
With the help of the Moroccan association Matqisch Weldi (Don’t Touch my Child)- a Moroccan association that aims to help sexually abused children and work to help in arresting child molesters and rapists- the mother took her daughters to the hospital and then filed a lawsuit against the abusive father.
In February, 2009, in Ait Melloul, a father was arrested for raping his 9-year old daughter. The father used to work as a night guard and thus spent time at home during the day. It was then when he used to take advantage of the mother’s absence for work. The daughter, who was sexually abused and raped for several months, broke her silence when she confessed to her mother who went straight to the police, filed a lawsuit against him and demanded he be arrested.
In October, 2009, in Medcher Lekbach village (near Chefchaouen), Mohammed V hospital received a mother and a daughter who were severely beaten by the father. They two were both in a state of psychological shock after the mother discovered that her husband had been raping their under-age daughter for three years. Worse still, after the under-age girl got pregnant, her “father” caused her to have a miscarriage without the mother’s knowledge. The mother knew about it by chance when during Eid al-Fitr, she went out to visit a relative. She discovered the misdeeds of her husband by sheer coincidence when she forgot the keys of her apartment and went back home to look for them. She started screaming and the neighbors rushed to the house which made the father outraged and started beating them.
No matter how much we sympathized with these girls, we cannot claim to know or understand the tormented psychological state these girls will undergo their whole lives. Their deep scars they’ll forever hold in their bodies and souls. Their nightmarish and traumatic experience is beyond any measures and imagination and beyond what any mind can process or fathom.
It is heartbreaking to read and hear about stories of how these little girls’ innocence and childhood were ripped off them in a flick of an eye by the supposedly most protective person, their fathers.
My intention through this article is to shed light on a horrific topic that we read about in daily newspapers and hear about in the news. Yet once we get back to our lives, we just block it out. As we are part of this society, we should encourage the victims and their mothers to break their silence about such horrific practices. Unfortunately, the concept of shame (Hashouma) when it comes to sexual matters, is still deep-seated in our mentality, which only cause things to worsen.
This topic should be talked about to save the lives of the girls suffering from it. Only by speaking openly about this issue and encouraging the victims to reveal the truth about the executioners, will we be able to protect more innocent girl from going this atrocious experiences and put the perpetrator in jail. By being silent and turning a blind eye on the suffering on our daughters, we become accomplices in these crimes.
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