By Zakaria El Hajji
By Zakaria El Hajji
Morocco World News
El Jadida, Morocco, May 31, 2012
Love, lust, bonding, attachment… are various names for various manifestations of humans’ feelings towards one particular person and not the other. The question at stake is why a particular person and not the other? Is love by its nature discriminating or are we, consciously or unconsciously, discriminating?
Love is egoistic is the title of an article by Omar Bihmidine in which the author expressed his point of view towards love and deemed it to be egoistic in reality. According to him, the mere consideration of beauty as part and parcel of mate choice during courtship is egoistic.
Therefore, this gives rise to questioning what we deem beautiful in the mate choice process. However, as mating is a two parts process, beauty standards differ from males to females. There are countless findings about this issue, which will enable us to suffice ourselves to the general rather than to roam in the particular.
Beauty is a standard in mate choice next to other standards which all hover around the notion of survival. Had it not been for survival, humans would have been machine likes. The notion of survival has been evolving since the evolution of humans, therefore, its standards have evolved too, but the main traits are printed in our DNA. A case in point is offspring. Humans, for survival, need to give birth to healthy offspring. As a matter of fact, only a healthy couple would be able to accomplish that task. Therefore, “a cross-eyed, bald woman, a woman who walks with a limp, a man who is missing one arm,” are all manifestations of what is considered instinctually unhealthy patterns.
Beauty, in itself, is a term for what is considered traits of healthy mates. Beauty is the manifestation or the façade through which we judge a candidate to be healthy enough to bear a prospective offspring. Thus, the modern industry of makeup and cosmetics targets this sole purpose, their goal is to give the human mind the image that the person at hand is the right candidate for the mating process. All of these processes take place instinctually, but as the human mind tends to justify and give explanations to the unresolved or unknown, we have successfully resorted to our intellect to interpret our instincts. For instance, we have coined words like ‘unconditioned love, true love…’ under which we claim that mate choice for humans is based on platonic principles.
Beauty aspects according to females seeking a male mate used to be more oriented towards the physical ability of the male to hunt and to defend his family, which ensures survival. However, as the notion of survival has evolved, muscles are not that much needed in a century where one can make a living through other ways such as his mental faculties.
All in all, love is a pretext of calculated mechanisms that insure the most effective mate choice that guarantees the ongoing and survival of our species.
Zakaria El Hajji is a High School teacher of English who graduated from Hassan II faculty of Arts and Humanities in 2010 and later joined the Teacher’s Training College (ENSET) in Rabat from which he graduated in 2011.
The views expressed in this article are the author’s own and do not necessarily reflect Morocco World News’ editorial policy.
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