By Omar Bihmidine
By Omar Bihmidine
Morocco World News
Sidi Ifni, Morocco, July 6, 2012
Much has been written about prostitution and the causes leading to the spread of this sickening phenomenon. Throughout history, prostitution has always existed in all societies in varied degrees. Strange to some, the phenomenon is also common in many self-sufficient, developed countries the world over. Without both men and women being involved in it, prostitution would not exist. Yet, does this necessarily mean that women alone create the phenomenon? For me, the answer is a resounding “No.” Here, I need to make a clear-cut distinction between creating prostitution and taking part of it.
In order to better comprehend what I am writing, think for instance, of poverty as a rampant social ill. Does the fact that I am poor mean that I am responsible for my poverty or that I have made poverty part of my life? Definitely not! To me the same can be true for prostitution. Does the fact that men get in touch with prostitutes to satisfy their desires mean that these men alone must be held accountable for bringing prostitution to existence? I believe the answer is no.
Instead, I would say that men who frequent corners of prostitution must be blamed mainly for encouraging women to participate in prostitution, not necessarily for creating it directly. Suppose that men were sent to live in remote places where all the women living there are strictly conservative. Would we notice any cases of prostitution? Probably not. This is for the simple reason that these women condemn prostitution because of the principles they have and the attitudes they hold in terms of their own sexuality.
Hence, it is up to both women and men to make up their mind whether to participate in prostitution or not. If women, for instance, do not yield to men’s sexual advances of all sorts, prostitution will be hard to manifest itself in that society. If they yield to these advances, prostitution will instantly appear and mushroom fast. The same can be said for men. If they too force themselves not to seduce women with their substantial and appealing offers, women would no longer have any reason to participate in prostitution for their livelihood.
Some might say that there are times when women don’t yield, but that they are forced by men to resort to prostitution. In this regard, I would say that this is no longer prostitution: rather, it is rape.
Prostitution, by definition, comes about by consent, whereas rape occurs by force and without consent. In the case of rape, I believe that both men are more to blame for creating it. The first one to start it is the one to blame, and therefore they should be penalized, no matter if they are women or men. However, in the case of prostitution, it is prostitutes that call men to sex, and men choose not to decline the prostitutes’ invitations. Have you ever seen a man waiting for a prostitute to come to him wherever he is? It is prostitutes that do the job and wait. Have you ever seen a prostitute waiting for a client who never comes? It is men that make up their minds either to act as a client or not.
It is undeniably true that men go to prostitutes on their own accord. But, who could have created prostitution in the first place? Are they the ones who serve clients of prostitution or the clients who are tempted to be served? Frankly, it is both. When some women stop becoming prostitutes, there would be higher chances that prostitution would one day disappear. Notwithstanding, as long as women cannot stop dealing in the trade, prostitution will never disappear. This has been the case from time immemorial, particularly because men rarely think of putting an end to this grave phenomenon by deciding to stop being part of the trade.
Many people believe poverty is the key factor fueling the existence and spread of prostitution. From my point of view, if that were the case, how would we account for the large number of penurious women who have never resorted to prostitution at a point in their lives, but who have instead chosen to do manual jobs? If that were the case, then the majority of women all over the world would become prostitutes overnight–for most of them are already extremely poor. So, conditions are never to blame for the spread of this phenomenon. Men and women must therefore be held responsible equally.
If that were the case, a poor woman would then be mistaken for a prostitute, which is unfair. With respect to these analogies, it turns out that some women are not born prostitutes. Rather, they choose to become prostitutes. Some men aren’t born clients. Instead, they become clients. At the point when these women make this decision over their destiny, they inevitably end up creating prostitution in same way as their counterparts, men. When prostitution grows rampant as a result, some feminists put the blame solely on men.
In the same vein, if poverty and other ulterior causes were the key factors relating to prostitution, poor men too would not help but to become a “prostitute.” Why have men not become ” prostitutes” too? Simply: because they are men, not women. It is their biological nature as males that does not allow them to become prostitutes. To put this another way, a prostitute is female, not male. This inevitably leads us to conclude that it is women’s biological nature that is conducive to the existence of prostitution. In other words, women have to bear the burdens of their biological nature, while men who are also responsible shrug it off their shoulders. What men do when women deal in the trade is make the trade flourish by serving as customers.
Prostitutes do not enjoy their trade, some say in defense of the conditions leading prostitutes to becoming what they are today. As long as they do not enjoy the trade, why wouldn’t men help women give it up once and for all, especially for women cannot help but make and amass enough money to eradicate their daily hardship, poverty.
Since they do not enjoy their trade, I do not think men and women should still continue to delude themselves by killing two birds with one stone. The first bird here symbolizes the money they make and the second bird represents their sexual enjoyment. In a nutshell, prostitution has always existed for nearly the same reasons. I am sad to say that both men and women are the main reason from which other reasons have began.
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