By Rachid Acim
By Rachid Acim
Morocco World News
Beni Mellal, Morocco, July 7, 2012
While passing by a herd of people yesterday evening in our city, I came across a couple who were quarreling with each other. The most skeptical husband was beating his wife in public, criticizing her and calling her names for a misdeed she committed.
The well-dressed wife was silent and the situation caused me to raise a number of questions about her. She was crying and agonizing alone. She did not say a word. Few of us nearby could understand why this was happening.
The poor wife! She had never expected this provocative incident to occur.
A five-month-old child was in her arms screaming loudly. Yet, nobody dared to intervene to help the couple settle the dispute in a more reasonable way. The people witnessing this dispute had lots of unspoken shared concerns about newborn baby. He did not deserve all this ado about nothing.
Like everybody, I was intrigued by the odd story of this couple. As a result, I walked closer to hear what was going on between the husband and wife. To my surprise, I heard that the wife had received a phone call from a stranger and she had replied to him while smiling during dinner with her husband at a restaurant. The husband called the same person and he was extremely shocked to hear that the man on the other side of the phone was one of his wife’s old friends.
After repetitious phone calls, the husband stopped speaking. It may have been due to fear that the issue should be reported to the police.
Was the wife still in a relationship with that man? Nobody could answer that truly.
It was very shocking when the husband took his wife’s mobile phone and broke it down against a house wall. The very puzzled wife started to collect the mobile pieces desperately. She was helplessly searching for the SIM card containing her intimate friends — old and new. All of the people, who watched this happen, were terribly stupefied and wished this hadn’t occurred.
I was not different from the crowd around me. I tried to calm down the very agitated husband. The crowd advised him to control his nerves and to handle the issue with his wife differently. Some people might scoff at them for this startling misunderstanding, but others might take a lesson from the whole story:
This could happen to any one of us.
The angry husband ordered his wife to go home and to take care of her child. He was not in a good mood though; he seemed to be less hopeful about his future relationship with the wife. Jealousy was visible on most of his gloomy face and anger gripped most of his body.
Surely, he was unlucky to see how his body reacted through his own eyes.
We can put ourselves in his shoes and see how the matter would play out with us. I’m afraid that most of us will not allow that to happen to strangers, let alone to ourselves.
On seeing this horrible incident, I switched off my mobile phone for a while and entered the nearest shop to get a new telephonic card. We must be alert to the devil-like cunning played by certain people to victimize us or to despise and humiliate us amongst our wives.
It will be a veritable catastrophe if an old male friend calls your wife at night, says some words that are sweeter than yours while you are asleep dreaming of a keepsake to offer her the next morning.
What would your reaction be in this case? Would you ask for divorce or will you debate the matter peacefully with your wife? Personally, I would opt for the second option.
I am convinced that mobile phones have destroyed many Moroccan and non-Moroccan families.
Within the same family, we are more likely to find each person has more than one phone number. There may be one phone number for business and another one for pleasure. One phone number for school friends and the other for acquaintances. It is also very silly when you see an elegant person holding two or maybe three mobile phones in their hands.
These three gadgets fulfill only one function.
Having multiple phones is acceptable for some people, especially if their profession requires it. But, it is unacceptable when you see unemployed young men switching their mobile phones from one hand to the other, calling this girl and proposing a rendezvous with another.
One mobile phone is no longer enough in the Moroccan context.
This is very bizarre. We borrow new technology and we, however, adapt it to achieve certain goals no matter how basic they are. For example, a young girl who turns off one mobile and turns on the other as her number starts disrespectfully to circulate from one individual to another.
My advice is that if one intends to get married, they should get rid of all phone numbers. A new one should suffice.
Some phone numbers are undesirable and they cost about 20 Dhs or less. Other phone numbers are not much expensive as they do not exceed 30 Dhs.
When Martin Cooper invented the cellular phone in 1973, he had in mind the idea of effective communication. He never anticipated that mobile phones would arouse troubles for couples, cause employers to be dismissed from jobs, or for students to be penalized for using a mobile phone in an exam.
It really hurts when you see some people make calls just to disturb or even tease others. They do not offer any value to human communication facilitated by the mobile phone. I have received numerous calls from hidden numbers. A formal greeting will never trigger a response from the caller. Lots of doubts persist out but one way that can solve the problem is to open the line and let the caller consume both his mobile phone battery and also his money.
We are not superstars or VIPs to be receiving instant calls from time to time.
When you call someone up, it is either because you want to talk to him: to inquire about him or to ask for a particular favor. But when you call up one and you stay silent, that leaves a lot to be explained to the person who receives the call. Maybe an old beloved is longing for hearing your sweet voice. Maybe someone is still interested in you as friend. Maybe the line has mistakenly opened and the person was unaware of that. This is one pitfall of the new generation of tactile mobile phones.
The same day cannot go without not receiving a call that starts wrong and ends up right. Some adolescents have no job but to test out many numbers at night when there are many mobile-phone offers provided by some telecommunication companies such as free SMS. Many of them hope for a female voice to answer so that they can initiate a love talk that can last for hours and hours.
As noted earlier, it will be a risky experience and a precarious adventure if a stranger calls up one’s wife at midnight just because it was an impromptu mistake, a slip of the phone or one way to shoot down the poor wife before her husband.
The husband has to stay calm, cautious as well as mindful about this since lots of skepticism can result in certainty and certainty can bring about destruction to one’s family.