Sexual Secrets Every Man Needs to Know about Women: ‘the Battle of the Sexes’
By Mohamed El Azzouzi
Morocco World News
Taroudant, Morocco, July 18, 2012
The most sacred dream of any Man or Woman is to settle into a comfortable, loving and sexually satisfying relationship. One of the big blocks for men is accepting the female’s conception and/or construction of sexuality. Why women do have less interest in experimenting sexuality? Why they get upset when men look at other women? Are they afraid?
Male and female sexuality may have a lot in common by means of their psychic construction (brain) and hormones rather than other external factors. A lot of the neuropsychiatrist Louann Brizendine’s works is meant to help men and women to understand males’ and females’ sexuality. In this article we will tackle some of the many characteristics that make the female’s personality unique; as well as the problematic changes that occur in the female’s psyche during her life span development. So what are these changes, and what are their impacts on the female sexuality construction?
It is obvious that more than 99% of male and female genetic cording is exactly the same, Dr. Louann Brizendine argues. But this percentage differs in every single cell in our bodies, starting from the nerves that are responsible for pleasure and pain, to the neurons that transmit perceptions, thoughts, feelings and emotions. Nevertheless, the male brain is larger than the female’s by around nine percent. The latter fact has been taken by many ancient critics to support the claim that women are less intelligent than men. However, both, the male and the female brains contain the same number of cells.
From zero-age up until the eighth week all brains are female. On the one hand, in the male brain a huge amount of testosterone grows more cells in the sex and aggression centers. On the other hand, in the female brain, these waves of the hormone testosterone attack and grow observation, communication, emotion, feeling and caring cells. Thus, girls, at the phase of puberty, tend to speak three times more than boys do, and speak faster. During this stage, and from a biological perspective, girls’ primary purpose is to become sexually attractive and desirable –this point shall be discussed in another article in the future. Here, at this level we have touched upon the first factor that may be considered a vital component in the female sexuality construction. That is to say, “connecting through talking activates the pleasure center in the girl’ (female) brain,” Dr. Louann Brizendine argues.
Furthermore, on the age of 50, a radical change occurs in the mature female brain structures. The menopause or the end of hormones that have enhanced communication circuits, emotion circuits, the drive to care, and the intention to avoid conflict disappear in the female body. Therefore, 65% of the divorces after this age are initiated by women. Dr. Brizendine attributes this to something called “postmenopausal zest.” In other words, women, at this level, want to be free and independent. They do not want to take care of anybody else.
As far as sex and emotions are concerned, the female sexual turn-on is really problematic and ambiguous. The woman is on when her brain is off. Put differently, the female orgasm can be achieved only when the fear and the anxiety center is turned off. That is why women need more care and security before any –successful –sexual intercourse.
For women, foreplay is every single thing that happens during the 24 hours that precedes any sexual intercourse –which is very problematic for men to keep. This comfortable psychic situation helps in reducing the activation of the fear center.
For those who wonder why women are less interested in sexuality, they have to learn something about how the female’s brain operates or works. Throughout history any time a woman engages in sexual intercourse she puts her life in danger. Pregnancy was, and still dangerous. In spite of the modern birth-control methods, women still have to be careful. Besides, if any one wants a woman to be playful and sexually provocative, he has to give her care, emotional security and connection she needs.
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